The Power of One
The power of one. Receiving a bouquet of flowers is something many of us enjoy. Having a big bouquet of fresh cut flowers in an assortment of colors makes my heart sing. The brighter and larger bouquet is better. Recently, I was given a beautiful bouquet of fresh, brightly mixed flowers.
After ten days, the flowers began to fade and slowly die, as they always do. I decided their best days were behind them. As I looked at the flowers seeing if I could “save” any, there was one lily, a smaller one on a branch of three that was still fresh. I clipped it off, saved it, and put it in a smaller vase. It was beautiful: simple, elegant and unique.
Sense of calm
Interestingly, I felt a sense of calm as I marveled at this single lily flower. I realized how much I loved seeing just ONE flower, alone in a vase. It’s beauty stood out. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE flowers, often the more the better. Yet, there was something special about this one flower. I could really see the intricate beauty of this one that was lost in a whole bouquet. Sometimes, simple is better.
Isn’t that so true about life, our relationships at home and at work. There is power in the simple, the ONE thing.
The Power of One
What about when we are working with patients and clients on behavior change? The power of ONE thing: one next step, one goal. Often, our patients get so overwhelmed with all that is wrong. “Your sugar levels are high, your weight is up, your blood pressure is elevated. Are you taking your medications?” Yikes. It is all necessary and part of the office visit yet it can be so overwhelming and paralyzing for both the patient and practitioner. This is especially true when working with the change process.
Sometimes we may want to pull back, reassess, and ask what they are interested in. Ask what, if any, concerns they might have. What “matters to them” and then focus on ONE thing. What Matters to YOU. See the power, the beauty of one step, one action, and one intention. Behavior change, one step at a time.
Questions we can ask:
“What is one small step you can make to go forward?”
“Where can you start?”
“What is something you can tweak to make this work?”
“As you leave the appointment today, what is one thing you will do?”
“What do I need to move forward?”
“Where do I need to start?”
All of these are questions we can ask family, friends, team members, patients, clients and ourselves. What is one step?
Transform conversations. Transform healthcare. Transform lives.
Dr. Becky Lang